I got a medium to high score in the emotional intelligence test: 8 for self-awareness, 8 for self-management, 8 for social-awareness, and 8 for relationship management; in these more specific scales, I scored 22 out of 25 in adaptability, 23 out of 25 in empathy, 22 out of 25 in emotional self-awareness, 14 out of 25 in positive outlook, and 17 out of 25 for emotional control.
Thinking about my personality and experiences, I am not surprised to see these scores. I am not an introvert person, which means that in most cases I seek for collaboration to solve issues, and I enjoy the feeling of working with people. This makes me do better and better when I am growing up in relationship management. In teamwork, the results can be suddenly changed by a single factor, usually a participant’s emotion. Therefore, I form the habit of paying attention to people around me, observing what they are happy for or what they worry about and offering encourages or supports as they need. Also, as a factor who can change the end result, I learn to understand myself and control my own emotion during the process. Together with the higher level of self-recovery and adjustment, emotional intelligence, a goal-oriented personality appears, which I do not deem as a bad thing necessarily, but sometimes does play a crucial role in fluctuating my mood.
I entered an international high school in the US, although I spent my entire middle school life in a public middle school in my hometown, China, there were so many barriers and struggles in the beginning, in which the hardest two to overcome were language barrier and cultural shocks. I cannot remember the detail of how I managed to overcome these, but I totally agree that trying to embrace challenges and defeat them, I gained a high adaptability in my high school.
A high score of empathy relates to my hobby of writing (in Chinese). For creating real and relatable characters, I always make myself the character and think: what will they react to this sudden change? How can they reconcile with their enemies? What are they thinking of at this moment? This exchange of position extends to my daily life. With the previous exercises with my characters, it is easier for me to empathize with others. Positive outlook and emotional control are the two blind spots that I need to address or improve. My mood and outlook are not as optimistic as it was before COVID, which significantly affected my plan for this year. with all the stress of midterm etc., my self-adjustment needs to work immediately to help me feel better. I have started to do regular work out and everyday reading, and I look forward to seeing positive changes happening on me soon.
